I am discussing today about an aspect of great importance which not only holds us back, it also keeps us in a place where we are continually creating more of the same. Perhaps you would like to do this as an activity so that you can obtain more value. Take a moment to write down 6 or more things in your life that you wish didn't happen, or things that you wish you didn't do, or things you have some energy on or things that bring about negative emotions. Then, write down the emotions that these bring about. For example: maybe it is 'being in debt' that you wrote down and the emotion that comes up for you is disappointment. You see, the reason why there is emotion with each of the things you wrote down is because you believe that "what is shouldn't be or shouldn't have happened". You are resisting what is. You are resisting the fact that these things are a part of your history or still exist and you want dearly to change it. To fix the situation. That is never going to work. Resistance is the foundation from which most people attempt to move their life forward and it doesn't work. They are looking to change what they are resisting. Think about how most women look to change our weight for example. We resist what we are seeing (our bodies, our 'fat' legs, our 'big bum' etc) and we look to change our TERRIBLE situation by losing weight/fat through dieting, exercise and even extreme measures such as liposuction etc. Only to find ourselves putting on that weight again in due time. If the theory of "to think is to create", then everything you are resisting you are creating more of it. Think of anything on that list you made that you wished didn't look the way it is. You are in resistance to everything on that list. How do I know? Because you put it there! "I don't like it".. so I resist it. "It shouldn't be".. so I resist it. Okay.. so you get that you are resisting these things... time for a solution. One would think the way to stop resisting something is to simply do that.. stop resisting whatever it is that you are resisting. That is not the solution. The solution looks like this: 1. Acknowledge that you are in resistance 2. Accept that it is YOUR resistance. Don't go looking to place someone else or the circumstance in the 'resistance basket'. Own that it is you that is in resistance. 3. This is a big one! When resistance comes up, experience it FULLY. Allow yourself to experience the emotions - the hurt, the disappointment, the guilt - everything. When we resist something we push it down or stay in it for a long time. That is simply resisting the resistance! Instead allow yourself to experience it completely so that you are left with nothing. 4. Surrender to it. When you surrender to the resistance you are giving in to it. You are giving into 'what is'. It is only then that you can create something that will better serve you. IE: creating wealth, creating a healthy, sculptured body. Not from a place of resistance, but instead from a place of nothingness. Without judgment but instead total acceptance. Acceptance is giving up what you think you already know about something. Go and accept what is and look to create in your life. Create the things that your heart desires. You deserve it! I love you xx Melissa CommentsBrenda 07/26/2010 16:59
Melissa - great blog post - love the website and I'm looking forward to learning more! - love you - Brenda Victor - In and Out Burger 09/01/2010 09:57
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